Navigating Times of Transition

In the past few weeks I have been thinking a lot about what it takes to go through change consciously.

Any change is like a death. There is a letting go of “the way it used to be”… a transition period that eventually moves into a redefining of your worldview and identity, and finally an acceptance and embracing of the new.

And it takes time. As Angeles Arien so wisely said, “During times of not knowing, it is considered foolish to take action and an act of wisdom to wait and trust.”

I am learning to move beyond the need to know. I am practicing flexibility while staying present in the moment. Remaining still as the still waters of the heart well. As I search for a quiet place to nourish and refresh my body and soul on its journey to wholeness…expanding my capacity to be open to what is revealed in the moment.

As I honor my process in its own timing I realize that there is no one correct path. Each moment we have choices to make and experiences to feel.

One of my biggest challenges has been staying in my feelings without shutting down. I hope that this can build the muscles I need to move forward consciously as the old structures fall apart.

I find I have times of great exhaustion and times of high-energy peaks. And I am discovering what depletes me and what fills me up.

Dancing fills me. The ocean fills me. Flowers fill me. Meditation fills me. Over planning and overdoing deplete me. Negative people deplete me. Watching the news depletes me.

So for the moment I am on the roller coaster of life. And as my friend The Reverend Elizabeth Longo said at Unity on Sunday “Find your “G spot” (the God spot) and you will be able to hold life in your heart.”

Work With Me:

In addition to private coaching, I also facilitate Weddings, Baby Blessings, Space Clearings, New Home/Business Blessings and rituals for all of life’s transitions. Call our office at 212-741-3358 for details.

I’m taking the show on the road! If you’d like to sponsor a one or two day workshop in your city, contact shakima@barbarabiziou.com to discuss.

Many Blessings,

Barbara

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The Power of Flowers

Those of you who have spent time with me know that I love flowers. In my New York apartment I have created a magic garden to bring me the energies that I need to purify, center and enhance each moment.

I love the way they look and I love the scent of the plant kingdom that allows us to heal, relax and open to joy and love.

Here are a few of my favorites and their properties.

Gardenias: My mother loved this flower and I was blessed to have our gardenia tree bloom while she was making her transition. Each day I cut some and put them in a bowl of water for her. This flower is linked to the moon and the energies of peace, love and spirituality. Scott Cunningham,  in his book Magical Aromatherapy, has suggested that on the full moon you place some fresh gardenias in water and link to the lunar energies to strengthen your spiritual connection.

Jasmine: This is my personal favorite and I wear its essential oil as a perfume (I only use the pure natural oil and do not use the synthetic version). Jasmine is calming, soothing and is an aphrodisiac. It is sensuous and uplifting. Legend says that wearing jasmine will bring good luck and increase.

Rose: Opens the heart and turns our thoughts to love and happiness. Pink is for compassion, sweetness and gentleness, red for love and sexuality, white traditionally represents purity and new beginnings which is why many people use them at weddings (although in some cultures white roses are given to those in mourning), yellow roses symbolize happiness and friendship, while orange roses represent passion and excitement.

Hydrangea: These flowers are beautiful to look at and symbolize gratitude and deep emotions.  According to a Japanese legend, a proud emperor used a bouquet of hydrangeas as an apology to the family of a girl with whom he was in love.

I also love honeysuckle, which is rumored to increase weight loss and increase psychic awareness and is used in many money-drawing rituals along with the herb basil.

Work With Me:

In addition to private coaching, I also facilitate Weddings, Baby Blessings, Space Clearings, New Home/Business Blessings and rituals for all of life’s transitions. Call our office at 212-741-3358 for details.

I’m taking the show on the road! If you’d like to sponsor a one or two day workshop in your city, contact shakima@barbarabiziou.com to discuss.

Many Blessings,

Barbara

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In Memory of My Mother

On Sunday May 6th, in a small cemetery in Vermont, we buried my mother Diana (Deena) Popack Winer. She was born in Montpelier, Vermont in 1918 so it was fitting that Vermont was her final resting place. She touched many people by her attitude of gratitude and her zest for life. Her motto was “you make your own happiness”.

My brother and I participated in many rituals (both traditional and non-traditional that I will write about at another time) but I wanted to share with you the meaning of Kaddish, a Jewish prayer recited by mourners after the death of a relative. There are many gateways to Spirit and this is one that is meaningful to me.

Kaddish is meant to be recited within a collective so there is enough energy to lift up the lonely mourners, the angry mourners, the mourners too hurt to even say amen. It reassures the wounded soul that you are not alone.

Kaddish affirms that God is beyond us. Understanding is beyond us but Holiness and beauty are all around us. We have work to do.  There is hope. Peace is possible.

Kaddish asks you to take what might appear random, meaningless and cruel and speak of it as part of the sacred whole. This is an enormous challenge. As we accept death as a part of life we are given a refuge…a way to find peace even when there is no way to make sense of the loss.

Although Kaddish gives voice to acceptance it is not a statement of submission. Kaddish reminds mourners of their obligation both to dream of the kingdom of heaven on earth and to build it…without delay.

Yet in our time of mourning we know that fragility of life.

Kaddish addresses the meaning of life and death, immortality and redemption, the purpose and efficacy of prayer, community and the ultimate goal of peace.

Both inner peace and the peace of the whole world.

Every death leaves unfinished family business. Saying Kaddish in memory of a loved one is one way the mourners forgive the dead and themselves for words spoken in anger and for words of love and forgiveness never given voice. Kaddish helps replace guilt and grudges with shalom…peace.

The bottom line is startlingly clear. In words and through practice, Kaddish insists that the mourner turn away from death and choose life. In this way Kaddish expresses the essence of Judaism.

I read this prayer at my mother’s grave (thank you Terri Gold for suggesting it):

Do not stand at my grave and weep

I am not there. I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.

I am the diamond glints on snow.

I am the sunlight on ripened grain.

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circled flight.

I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry;

I am not there. I did not die.

-Mary Elizabeth Frye

 Thank you all for your prayers and good wishes. And a special thank you to all my family and friends, especially my mother’s friend and aid Joy Williams who kept her laughing until the very end.

Many Blessings,

Barbara

 

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