The Power of Flowers

Those of you who have spent time with me know that I love flowers. In my New York apartment I have created a magic garden to bring me the energies that I need to purify, center and enhance each moment.

I love the way they look and I love the scent of the plant kingdom that allows us to heal, relax and open to joy and love.

Here are a few of my favorites and their properties.

Gardenias: My mother loved this flower and I was blessed to have our gardenia tree bloom while she was making her transition. Each day I cut some and put them in a bowl of water for her. This flower is linked to the moon and the energies of peace, love and spirituality. Scott Cunningham,  in his book Magical Aromatherapy, has suggested that on the full moon you place some fresh gardenias in water and link to the lunar energies to strengthen your spiritual connection.

Jasmine: This is my personal favorite and I wear its essential oil as a perfume (I only use the pure natural oil and do not use the synthetic version). Jasmine is calming, soothing and is an aphrodisiac. It is sensuous and uplifting. Legend says that wearing jasmine will bring good luck and increase.

Rose: Opens the heart and turns our thoughts to love and happiness. Pink is for compassion, sweetness and gentleness, red for love and sexuality, white traditionally represents purity and new beginnings which is why many people use them at weddings (although in some cultures white roses are given to those in mourning), yellow roses symbolize happiness and friendship, while orange roses represent passion and excitement.

Hydrangea: These flowers are beautiful to look at and symbolize gratitude and deep emotions.  According to a Japanese legend, a proud emperor used a bouquet of hydrangeas as an apology to the family of a girl with whom he was in love.

I also love honeysuckle, which is rumored to increase weight loss and increase psychic awareness and is used in many money-drawing rituals along with the herb basil.

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In addition to private coaching, I also facilitate Weddings, Baby Blessings, Space Clearings, New Home/Business Blessings and rituals for all of life’s transitions. Call our office at 212-741-3358 for details.

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Many Blessings,


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In Memory of My Mother

On Sunday May 6th, in a small cemetery in Vermont, we buried my mother Diana (Deena) Popack Winer. She was born in Montpelier, Vermont in 1918 so it was fitting that Vermont was her final resting place. She touched many people by her attitude of gratitude and her zest for life. Her motto was “you make your own happiness”.

My brother and I participated in many rituals (both traditional and non-traditional that I will write about at another time) but I wanted to share with you the meaning of Kaddish, a Jewish prayer recited by mourners after the death of a relative. There are many gateways to Spirit and this is one that is meaningful to me.

Kaddish is meant to be recited within a collective so there is enough energy to lift up the lonely mourners, the angry mourners, the mourners too hurt to even say amen. It reassures the wounded soul that you are not alone.

Kaddish affirms that God is beyond us. Understanding is beyond us but Holiness and beauty are all around us. We have work to do.  There is hope. Peace is possible.

Kaddish asks you to take what might appear random, meaningless and cruel and speak of it as part of the sacred whole. This is an enormous challenge. As we accept death as a part of life we are given a refuge…a way to find peace even when there is no way to make sense of the loss.

Although Kaddish gives voice to acceptance it is not a statement of submission. Kaddish reminds mourners of their obligation both to dream of the kingdom of heaven on earth and to build it…without delay.

Yet in our time of mourning we know that fragility of life.

Kaddish addresses the meaning of life and death, immortality and redemption, the purpose and efficacy of prayer, community and the ultimate goal of peace.

Both inner peace and the peace of the whole world.

Every death leaves unfinished family business. Saying Kaddish in memory of a loved one is one way the mourners forgive the dead and themselves for words spoken in anger and for words of love and forgiveness never given voice. Kaddish helps replace guilt and grudges with shalom…peace.

The bottom line is startlingly clear. In words and through practice, Kaddish insists that the mourner turn away from death and choose life. In this way Kaddish expresses the essence of Judaism.

I read this prayer at my mother’s grave (thank you Terri Gold for suggesting it):

Do not stand at my grave and weep

I am not there. I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.

I am the diamond glints on snow.

I am the sunlight on ripened grain.

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circled flight.

I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry;

I am not there. I did not die.

-Mary Elizabeth Frye

 Thank you all for your prayers and good wishes. And a special thank you to all my family and friends, especially my mother’s friend and aid Joy Williams who kept her laughing until the very end.

Many Blessings,



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What’s Your Favorite Color?

I have become exceptionally aware of how color and scent play a major role in setting up a particular mood or state of mind.

For over 6,000 years, certain plants were worn or sniffed to heal the body, attract love or change one’s state of consciousness. Today, scientific studies have confirmed that aromatherapy oils may energize, calm, rejuvenate, balance, purify and repair the body and mind.

Why does color matter you may ask? Well, colors are certain wavelengths of electromagnetic energy seen through our eyes. Since everything is made up of electromagnetic energy vibrating at different frequencies, color can calm you down or give you that extra zing you need to go out and shine.

As soon as I spray my “Happiness Spray “ in my mother’s room at the care center, she seems to perk up and the staff always comments on how good it smells. And many of you have commented on how nice she looks when she wears turquoise, red or blue. Orange, one of my favorite colors, is the color of happiness. Even prison officials have researched and concluded that inmates are calmer when the walls are painted pink.

Watch today’s video below and you will learn what colors create certain moods so that you will have more tools to move through life happier and more effectively.

Saturday April 22nd is Earth Day: show your love for the earth by planting a garden, making a meal of local veggies, recycling, picking up trash in your local park or blessing the trees. There are also many global meditations happening so check out your local calendar for events in your area.

Many Blessings,


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